Having A Bad Day – Why It Doesn’t Have To Mean Defeat..

and then zen bad day

I am calling today a write-off, refusing to properly start the day at all, cancelling it. I’m laid in bed, have been all day, and I don’t plan on that changing! I’ve barely eaten, barely moved, barely interacted. The light of day has not broken, darkness has remained, my curtains have stayed fully closed. Today has been difficult, a bad day, and I’m not afraid to admit that I’m fighting a battle that doesn’t seem to have an end, but I will not be defeated..

I barely slept last night, woke up three or four times for extended periods of time, and just laid. I woke up this morning with a headache, still tired as my anxious mind whirled away, and I just accepted the day as a right-off – ventured as far as the kitchen to fetch some snacks, my telly went on, my feel-good programmes followed. Today was a bad day, I just had to accept it..

Unlike our physical wellbeing, we are all guilty of forgetting about our mental health – as symptoms hide away, never fully disappearing for good, but often rearing their head when we least expect. Quitting the day for the sake our mental health can be a difficult choice, but it’s most definitely allowed, and socially, should be encouraged! We wouldn’t be afraid to call in sick to work with nausea or flu, yet we choose to battle through a bad day of depression and anxiety, and for the sake of what, and why?

I personally give you permission to have a day off – if your anxiety is kicking your butt today, you’re on the verge of a panic attack, or struggling for absolutely any other reason, do not feel as though you need to push yourself to the edge of self-destruct! You should always be your own number one priority, you should always put yourself first..

I often find it’s important to take some time away from it all by coming off social media, having a candlelit bath, or taking a moment with a hot drink to read! I personally love a good self-care routine and enjoy cleaning, my room or just a small area of it – I love the accomplished feeling you get when looking back at it, everything neat and organised. Whatever it may be that makes you feel a little more ‘you’, focus on yourself and indulge in it..

As a society, we need to learn that forcing yourself to work through physical or mental illness, is not acceptable, and not something that we have to live with – we don’t have to be okay every single day, it’s okay to have some time away, we’re allowed a day off for the sake of ourselves! We also need to learn that cancelling a day isn’t synonymous with defeat – a day, week, month off, doesn’t mean that you’ve lost – it means that you are working towards a better you, and I have every faith that you will achieve it!

What tips would you give to someone having a bad mental health day? What do you do to make yourself feel a little more ‘you’? 

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  • Beautyworkers

    loved your post. so empowering! https://beautyworkers.wordpress.com

  • I loved this!

    I totally agree, we should be allowed to take a day for our own mental health. More often than not when I take time out my head is much clearer and I actually feel refreshed!

    I normally find my mental health takes a dive when I am missing other keys things from my daily routine; exercise, drinking water, taking time to pamper! They all go hand in hand.

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

  • Great post! It’s important to acknowledge what you need and do it.

    Jennifer | Mrs Q Beauty

  • 💀Alice

    Aww I hope you are feeling a bit better now girl <3 It's so so important to take time out for yourself when you're feeling crappy, get some snacks, put a mask on, put your feet up and watch some Shrek 😉 I usually have a huge bath and put loads of nice products in it to make me feel better and then cuddle my little dog!
    Alice Xx

  • Gemma

    I hope you feel better soon lovely! I suppose we all have days like this, I think it’s just natural. It’s definitely important to take time out to enjoy things yourself. I love just relaxing, maybe with a good movie, or funny YouTube videos, baths are also a great way for me!

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

  • emily isobelle jane

    Get well soon hunni! This is beautifully written and so thoughtful, today I cleaned my room and took some time to get things I needed to done for me, I feel 100x better and you are so right we all need to take time for our mental health. This was a fab post, and its really important to share this message, so thanks for sharing lovely xx

  • I so agree with you, most of us wouldn’t think twice about taking the day off if we were physically unwell but it would never occur to us to do the same if we were having a bad day mentally. I know mental health is a newsworthy topic at the moment and I think your post is a really valuable addition to raising awareness. Great read, thank you, hope you’re in a better place now, x

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

  • Glass of Class

    I agree with you so much. Normally I’m up pretty early but recently I’ve had two nights when I couldn’t fall asleep and was tossing and turning until 3am. I found it so difficult to actually let myself sleep longer to make up for the late nights. Mental health is so important and it should be talked about a lot more than it is. I hope you’re feeling better, if you need to talk you can always message me <3

    Julia xx

  • I love this so much, it’s so important to take time for yourself and do things you enjoy. I like to get a lot of rest and sleep as well as watch YouTube videos and be extra cosy. Pyjamas, lots of blankets and a hot water bottle. I’m sorry you’ve been struggling lately, there’s better times ahead lovely x

    Alice http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  • Chessie ✨

    This is such an important post, I’m guilty of always pushing through my anxiety and depression and not really taking the time to relax as I always feel guilty if I’m not doing my uni work or working on my blog! Then when I’ve bottled it all up for too long I just have a massive breakdown and feel horrendous! I’d love to just chill out with a cup of tea and a book or a good film and will definitely take some time out for me in the future. I hope you have a lot less bad days and plenty more good days, hang in there – here if you need someone to talk too 💛

    Chessie | everythingchessie.co.uk 🌿

  • Great tips! I needed to read a post like this as I’ve been struggling with my anxiety a lot lately and I had a really bad day today and I basically allowed myself to feel guilty for feeling this way but it’s not my fault and I genuinely need to remind myself that when I’m having a bad day, not to beaut myself up about it and to instead try to fix my bad day and make it a good one. I find when I’m having a bad day it’s best for me to distract myself and write out a list of things I need to do, like write a blog post, clean my room etc. A good list always makes me feel a little more sane again lool xx

  • Jude Rivers

    I have bad days all the time and I now I have just come to accept them. I really like to watch my fave Netflix programs and just switch off! Great post! xx


  • Chloe

    Hi, great post we all have bad days we do indeed need to acknowledge it, take a step back look after ourselves and then reflect on it again if needed.

  • Kelly 켈리

    I hate days like these :(!
    It’s great to have a day off from everything now and again.


  • Ellie’s Bits of Beauty

    Aw no I hate days like these! I hope you’re feeling a little better now and your day off helped you recharge

    Ellie x


  • Those days stink 🙁 Sometimes it is important to take a mental health day. SO many expectations to live up to in the world today. I hope you feel better soon!

  • It’s so important to take care of your mental wellbeing! I personally try to have a moment every day to just clear my head and relax a bit but it’s not always possible. I find that the best thing to do when I’m having a day like this is to do all the things that make me feel happy :)x

    Anu | Based On blog | Bloglovin