That’s It, I Quit, I’m Moving On..

unemployed thank you card

It’s official – I quit my job! I am, for the first time in my life since I was about thirteen, unemployed! The whole idea of being unemployed is terrifying – which may or may not be the understatement of the century – but you have to do what is right for you, and this is just it..

The word ‘unemployed’ has sent shivers down my spine my entire life, and absolutely no one is questioning the idea that it is frightening! I have absolutely no idea when my next pay check is going to come through, or where it’s going to come from in fact, and the idea of having to budget for the festive season and having to sustain myself for the foreseeable future, off of one months pay, makes my anxious mind want to cry..

While my anxiety is quietly whimpering at the back of my mind, I am overwhelmingly happy and proud of myself! Having gone away on holiday, I spent the entire week worrying and over thinking – about what my future held for me, about my life goals and how they fitted with my current job, about my entire family and about doing what was right for us – just about every single element of my life as it currently stands!

As a bit of context to the entire situation, I received by A-Level results a few weeks before going on holiday – I had been working nearly twenty-five hours a week throughout my exams, and had prioritised work over my education for way too long, having entirely ruled out university, and had anticipated ‘relatively’ poor grades as a result..

I went in to collect my results, expecting the worst, and received quite a shock! I was so pleased to see that not only had I passed all three of my subjects, but I had entirely exceeded my own expectations – I had always known that continuing in education was something that did not appeal to me in any way, but my grades meant that a career in a legal office, or my ultimate dream of marketing, were not entirely out of the question..

I returned home from my holiday, and felt unsettled, to say the least – a few days back at work, and a few teary evenings spent worrying and panicking and over thinking later, it struck me that no one was forcing me to stay in a situation that no longer appealed to me!

Can I ask, why is it that no one ever talks about just how ‘scary’ handing in your notice can be, or what to say and when? I won’t lie to you or soften it in any way – it’s terrifying! I’ve always had such a good relationship with my manager, one that had only improved with time, and I just felt like I had let everyone down and the whole situation broke my heart..

I quickly realised that I was being silly – I wasn’t happy and there was just no way that I could fool myself into thinking differently! The whole meeting was over very quickly – thoughts of being my own number one priority, and doing what was in my own best interests, were at the forefront of my mind the entire time! ‘You have to do what’s right for you, and no one else can make that decision for you!’ – Wise, old but eternally right, Mother Matzen!

And that’s it – I’m unemployed, but I’ll be okay! I’ve faced rejection early on, but it’ll get better, and I’ll find something perfect. I have always been a firm believer in simply doing what is right for you, and quitting my job is what’s right for me, at this point in my life! If you click here, you can keep up with my job hunt! Who doesn’t love a little excitement in their lives?!

Have you had much experience in quitting jobs, and do you have any advice? How do you overcome nerves for the future and facing rejection?

and then zen

  • Keepingupwithflopi

    Thank you! Your post is very positive and encouraging! Being unemployed can be scary but you did the right thing! Always do what will make you happy! You’re smart and a positive person who knows what she deserves, you’ll find your dream job soon I’ve zero doubt !! Keep being positive 😘

  • Alice Swain

    I had to quit my job when I was in uni because it just made me so unhappy! I was only working 6 hours a week alongside my lectures but being there used to turn me into such a state that I just couldn’t do it anymore, it’s SO important to put your health first. You’re super brave for taking the plunge and I really hope you find something that you really enjoy and want to do soon 🙂 Looking forward to the “I found a job I love!” post!
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

  • Chessie ✨

    Good for you! Always make sure that your wellbeing is your #1 priority, good luck with the job hunt I’m sure you’ll find something fantastic soon!x

    Chessie | everythingchessie.co.uk 🌿

  • You go girl! I hope you find something amazing soon! You should always put your health first. My relative was in a very similar position and she’s so much happier now :)x

    Anu | Based On blog | Bloglovin

  • I have never quit a job. They were mainly internship and short term contract that’s why. But I am currently unemployed too because my contract was not continued at my previous job. Terrifying but oh well, it’s life xx corinne

  • Hannah Kaye Tindale

    I’ve only quit a job once and it is such a scary experience! Go you though for doing it and putting yourself and your health above any job! Glad that your feeling happier now!

  • I quit my graduate role in June… I was unhappy for quite some time in the job. But have been worried I wouldn’t find something else. Yes the job market is tough, but YOU WILL find something. I am exploring Self Employment at the moment. I love the idea of not having the traditional ‘going to a workplace’ type of job.. and most importantly.. working for myself I make all the decisions. Even if it doesn’t work out and I end up back in the workplace at least I tried. I totally agree with handing your notice in… I had a close relationship with my previous employees so it was a bit sad to go. On the other hand my role before that, my manager wasn’t there so I asked a different manager about how to hand it in and who to give it to and they were quite rude about it… which they later apologised but it reminded me why I was getting out. ANYWAY, to sum up you will be absolutely fine.. yes it is tough but if you really felt like your path wasn’t at your previous workplace it is best to leave. There’s no point doing something or being somewhere that makes you unhappy. Everything happens for a reason you will find where you are mean’t to be I’m sure. Unemployment can be a bit of a mental/emotional struggle at times.. if you ever need a chat, I’m here!

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

  • Eva

    This was such a good read!!! WELL DONE!!! I can understand that it must have been absolutely terrifying throwing yourself into the unknown, but it’s so important to follow your gut. They always say that if you don’t take risks, you aren’t really living, because the best things usually happen once you’ve taken that leap of faith. Good luck Hun, I’m sure you won’t regret this choice – it’s great that you’re already feeling happier!

    whatevawears.co.uk

  • Good for you. As a newbie freelancer I completely understand your fear, particularly with regard to where the next paycheck is coming from! But I’m a firm believer in things working out for the best. Running your successful blog means you’ve already got a head start if you want to apply for marketing jobs – you already know about digital marketing in practice, not just in theory. I don’t have any advice for overcoming nerves and the fear of rejection, sadly, even though I have years of practice, haha, but I’m sure you won’t regret your choice. And congratulations on some better than expected exam results! x

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

  • I’m glad you’ve done what was best for you and this is really inspiring to read given my current situation in how I feel about going to work lately. I definitely need to be pro-active to make myself feel happier, after all that’s the most important thing! x

    Alice http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  • Lydia Wilkins

    I’m happy that you did what was best for you 😀

  • You go girl! I know exactly how you’re feeling, but sometimes we just got to take the leap into the unknown and move onto bigger and better things! Good luck in all that you do. I know you can smash it!

    I was made redundant a few months back and it was the scariest thing ever. I had no clue what I was going to do so I just applied to every agency I liked like crazy and it really pulled off! I even applied at places that I didn’t think I’d get in for, and I was totally wrong. I have no regrets and I think my redundancy pushed me into a better environment.

    Lizzie Bee // http://www.hellolizziebee.com

  • Miss Lady

    I know the feeling all too well. I recently handed in my resignation letter a few weeks ago. I had been contemplating it for a long while. My sanity is more important so I just took the plunge. It was so nerve wrecking but after I gave my two weeks notice, I felt relieved. Your health and happiness is always first priority!

  • emily isobelle jane

    Yay I loved this hunni! THank you so much for sharing, as someone who is in a similar situation its so helpful to read this…we are certainly not alone! I currently have three other friends as well as myself who are all looking for jobs and changing career path, we are still so young, and I just think of it as exciting that we have so many options available! Good luck with your job hunt and a huge well done for doing the brave thing and doing well in your a levels! I might write a response to this on my blog as its not a subject talked about enough!

    Emily <3

  • Yasmin Browne

    Good for you! If you can afford to leave something that makes you unhappy – then you definitely should do so! It takes alot of courage to do something so brave. 🙂 I will be following your journey and looking forward to seeing new opportunities coming your way 🙂 xx

  • I think the nerves of unemployment was quite the opposite for me recently because, while all of my friends had jobs from being 16, I have only just bagged my first proper employment role at nearly 19 because of anxiety, my want to devote all my time to education, and just plain-old difficulty to find work. It’s so difficult to be unemployed and feel at a lost end but my advice is to not waste the time and freedom and really do something with your days – you can really make a difference to your entire life in this short space of time!

    Good luck with everything x
    Alice // The Rose Glow

  • Asile Coleclough

    It’s brave what you did. Take time. Focus on what you have. Certainly you come first always. Think what you like and you’ll find it. Dont doubt yourself and dont fear. Trust. Sometime all it takes for a better turn in life is what you did courage and trust, whats great and makes you happy will come your way! Stay positive 😁

    http://www.elicoleclough.com/blog/running/my-training-tips/

  • Good on you for still smashing your A Level results despite doing all of that work – you clearly need to give yourself more credit as you’re a smart girl! 👏🏼 I’ve no doubt that a great job will come knocking on your door soon, it may not appear immediately but with a bit of perserverence, you’ll get there! Sending all the positive vibes for this new chapter in your life!

    Abbey 🎃 http://www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

  • Glass of Class

    Well done you! I was absolutely terriffied to hand in my notice, so much I was putting it off by weeks. When I was doing it my voice was shaking, my legs were weak and I just handed the document in without saying anything. But I did it and it felt so good afterwards. Good luck with job hunting and I can’t wait to see where life takes you next!

    Julia xx
    theglassofclass.com

  • Gemma

    I’ve never actually quit a job to then become unemployed. I seem to go from job to job, so I quit as a sales assistant to become a marketing executive which was the best thing I’ve ever done! It is hard handing in your notice, especially for me as I was only there for two months, I transferred stores. A massive good luck for the job hunting! I wish you all the best lovely and I am more than positive you’ll be able to find something that fits youu, it took me a little while but I got there.

    Gemma | http://www.anoceanglimmer.wordpress.com

  • I have quit many part time jobs, and every time I get anxious about it, even though I’ve got genuine reasons! I have my fingers crossed you find something perfect for you, and I’m glad your grades were better than you expected x

  • That is such a big decision to make! Well done.
    I’m sure you’ll find something perfect.
    Bonitarochelle.co.uk xx

  • Leslie

    The irony is that I’m quitting my job today. I’m so happy i read this right now and found someone that can relate! Made me feel a lot better! And good luck on your journey!

  • I’ve quit jobs before and I understand how scary unemployment can be. Have you thought about temp work until you find the right job for you? It’s normally easy to get work, meet new people and make a bit of money. I’ve always gone back to temping even if it’s just for a few weeks whilst I decide what I want to do. Hope it all works out for you and good luck! x

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  • Well done for doing what’s right for you! I got that exact same card when I left Waitrose 2 years ago haha. Best of luck to the future xxx

  • Ellis Woolley

    Oh my goodness, I can totally relate to how you’re feeling right now. I quit my job back in May this year after putting up with too much stress for far too long and it really is terrifying handing your notice in. I’m now self employed and it’s been tough getting to grips with not knowing where my next pay cheque is going to come from, but as you say we all need to do what’s right for us and what is going to make us happy. I wish you all the best for the future sweet, you should be more than proud with the decision you have made 🙂 x x
    Ellis // http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk